Angry: Anger... at whom?
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I don't know if anger on the face is beautiful or not but it is a big hindrance to relationships. Even though he was taught at a young age that his anger is his enemy, even if his elders suggested him to count to ten when he gets angry... they are only words. Ordinary people do not try them in practice except in some Mahatma. But Ranura's social life is getting complicated. The cases of getting angry are increasing. The raging anger is causing many atrocities. That's why Dr. David J. Lieberman wrote a book called 'Never Get Angry Again'. Why does he, who is a psychotherapist, get really angry? How to control the mind so that it does not take control of our life... and many other things are discussed in this book. 'Manam' means 'ego' here. When faced with disrespect, injustice and rejection, the ego feels that its existence, admiration and identity have been harmed. We fear that we will not be respected, loved, or lose our rights. That fear manifests as anger. Lieberman says, 'It's called anger management, but it's not the anger that needs to be managed, it's the ego'. Man's behavior is completely under ego control. When any incident happens, we react immediately. If we don't wish a friend on our birthday, we assume that we are forgotten in the frenzy of new friends and that we don't love each other. Get angry. In that anger we do something like posting a message and commenting to someone else. Isn't that enough... friendship is broken! If we put the ego aside for a while - we are busy at work or have forgotten the date - it is good for our mind. That friendship is solid. This is what Lieberman called responding rather than reacting. Author's words are that only weak minded people react.
Lieberman suggests six important steps to keep anger from controlling us. Facts are preferred because what is imagined causes more anger than what actually happened. Ego should be reduced - that means not taking everything personally. Take a moment before reacting. Anger is a very quick emotion. When we stop doing that, we get out of its influence and the behavior comes under our control. Many times thinking about past and future causes anger. In that case, focus should be on the present. Weaknesses like insecurity and self-deprecation should be overcome. Self-confident people know that the actions of others do not diminish their worth and respect. That self-control strangles the ego and makes a man strong. Be curious to know what happened without judging the behavior of others. It dissolves anger. The book explains many such things with examples.
Following the Bhagavad Gita lesson of do what you have to do and don't think about the result is essential for those in the judiciary. One should be able to work for justice without expecting any reward after solving the case. href="https://x.com/eenadulivenews/" target="_blank" rel="noopener">Twitter, Instagram& Google News. Tags :
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